I am a career woman. To someone like myself Hillary Clinton
is a hero. While she is in the Oval Office and I am trying to break into
entertainment, we both basically put our professional lives first and
personal-what is that? Husband, well hers was fooling around and she was too
busy running the country to notice. And then she probably stood by her man
because she was too busy to leave. Where was she going to go? Divorce takes
time and she had a health care system to clean up. I digress.
Anyway, I haven’t had a guy in sometime. Between writing and
publishing a book, promoting that book, recording the audio version of that
book and writing the musical version of the book I really haven’t given a guy a
second thought. That is, until I was interviewed by a local magazine in my
hometown where the guy asked, “Do you want a husband or kids in the future?”
The question threw me for a loop. The answer is I really don’t
know.
Honest to God I didn’t know. In middle school I wasn’t allowed
to date. My parents emphasized academics, goals, and achievement. My father was
the first to get not only a college degree but an MBA and a law degree in a
working class family, and both my mom’s parents were educated. My dad was a
professor and my mom was a teacher. Television was not allowed until Friday so
boys were out of the question completely. As a matter of fact some folks even
thought I was gay because the story that April couldn’t date boys turned into
April couldn’t talk to boys. But I had my puppets and my tablet with my
thoughts. Better than any of the zit faced guys in my junior high class. Sure I
had crushes, who didn’t. Still, they were a world away.
High school was more chasing my goals. When I wasn’t busting
my behind in school I was taping shows at the cable access station, performing ventriloquism
somewhere, writing a column for the local paper, going to a play practice,
attending an acting or voice class, and then to support it all I bagged
groceries at the local supermarket on the weekends. My dream schools were Smith
College, Mount Holyoke, Brown University, New York University, Emerson College,
and Carnegie Mellon University and perhaps Julliard. There was no time for a
guy in my star chasing. There was no
time for anything that wasn’t getting me ahead. And the three guys I did like
in high school all made it clear they didn’t return the favor. But the help
with analyzing the Emily Dickinson, oh they gladly took that.
College was an adventure. My first year I was a miss all
around. One guy invited me to his room to watch TV. The next thing I know he
was all over me. Apparently watch television is code for lets have sex. I so didn’t
know that. We didn’t have sex and he felt bad I was in the dark. Later we
became good friends and joked about the incident. Still, that wasn’t a high
point in my life.
The few guys I liked seriously rejected me in a pretty low
way. One in particular was a favorite at an NYU extension and famous acting
studio I was later asked to leave. This young lad was tall, dark, and handsome
and slated to have quite the career. I, on the other hand, was being told that
I wouldn’t. Well tall, dark, and handsome found out about my puppets and we
connected. He assured me he had the same struggles and came out swinging. All
the girls liked him. Well he used to seek me out to speak to me and even
invited me to some theatre party but I was busy or something. Well one day I
was taking a stress walk after writing a paper and saw him when it started to
drizzle. I was wondering aimlessly, he was walking home. I ended up walking
with him in my meandering. Once we got to his dorm he suddenly turned acting as
if I was the unwanted overweight companion-I was in those days-rather than the
pleasant surprise in the hood. After crying on the way home, risking pneumonia,
and then showering I wrote him off and gave him the cold shoulder everytime I
saw him.
The fucker capitalized on his short time with me by twisting
the story on Gawker-not bad for someone slated to not have a career- about how I followed him home once and it was the most
terrifying thing ever. Sir, you wish I were stalking you. Because unfortunately the bitter teachers who were jealous I had a shot and they didn't were wrong. You never had that acting career and never will. Trashing me on Gawker is the closest you will ever get to that career. Now tell me, how does it feel to know you peaked at twenty?
Sophomore year I had my heart broken by a few guys who were
just shallow. But I was in a new studio extension and finding success there.
Plus I found standup comedy and that took up most of my nights. There could be
no man. There could only be Lee Strasberg. I simply had crushes on set up,
premise, and punchline. May Wilson got all the action.
Junior year I found myself engaged to a much older man who
was intimidated by the fact I was smarter than him and going places. His
friends-stupider than he was-said things. First he told me what I could and couldn’t
wear. Then he told me how I could and couldn’t dress. Next it was him or the
puppets. I gave up my children for six months. The worst mistake of my life.
Next he wanted to kill his mother so he could get the insurance money to be
with me.
They left that part of the story out on TV.
Same with the
stalking and threatening. My mom hates when I talk about it, but I need to so
women in the same situation can know that it will be fine. Plus I was lucky. He
only talked about killing me. Yeardley Love probably wishes she could take my
place. She probably wishes a separate mailing address was the least of her
problems. This Sir Lancelot pops up to “make amends” everytime things go well
in my life. Meanwhile he and whatever piece of trash with low self esteem he is
stringing on goes on some message board to talk trash. Who would have known
with all of his sleazing and sleeping with his stripper ex for money, I would
be the ex his new girlfriends would all be jealous of? My ex also took credit for writing my act and my jokes. Watch him take credit for my book next, assweed.
After that I dated a string of forgettables, one being a
lawyer who couldn’t stop lying. Many being ex-cons who could at least tell the
truth about the crimes they were committing. Some were nice, but my love of my
career and my busy schedule always made things fizzle out. All were fun runs in
the sun but nothing more.
Then my friend Chacho passed and I wanted to do everything I
could do to make my life and career complete. I thought of all the things
Chacho would want for me. Chacho wouldn’t want me to date losers, he had done
that and it is what put him in an early grave. He would want me to pour that
energy into being a superstar and hanging out with the most fancy people in the
world. Chacho would want me to put that energy into nice clothes. Chacho would
want me to live big. Well I did. I cut men out entirely, especially when the
television time started rolling in. Needless to say, after a bunch of events
the schedule became very full. I had no time for a man but ironically had a lot
of male admirers. Male admirers who loved me and my puppet children. Maybe a
guy could like me for being me.
And there was one who did. Yes, he did. I have blogged about
him and gave him a fake name to protect him because I know he was in trouble
somewhere. The truth is, he liked me for being me. No guy ever did.
Unfortunately he was sick-bipolar he was not taking his meds for and abusing
drugs instead. I had to let him go. Not because I wanted to, I had to. He didn’t
want to take his meds and he didn’t want to get help. Sometimes I think that if
he were to show up at my door clean, sober, and appropriately medicated I would
take him back. But that probably won’t happen. Maybe that says a lot about the
God I believe in. But unfortunately it’s reality.
I dated a former reality star and washed up comedian who I
thought liked me but was just using my visibility to revive his dead career.
There is a part of me that knows I am damaged. I know I am
scarred and have a hard time trusting guys. Actually, most of the time they are
guilty in April’s Court ruled by the iron fist of Roman Law. I always assume
they are cheating and sleazing around-in my mind. Not to mention I never tell
them about my career because I am scared they will make me give it up and have
their children. I am scared I will have to give up my whole life I worked for.
And wait until they see some of the photos I take and the letters male fans
write me. Then I know it’s over. Not to mention I am a lousy cook and clean as
frequently as the Jets win because I am so busy with my career.
Translated, my relationships end badly for a reason. I could
never make a guy happy, and a lot of it is my fault. At least I know that
though, right? Apparently men don’t like it when you try to make them puppets.
On the flipside someday it might be nice to have someone to
spend forever with. A special someone to have that big wedding with. A special
someone to honeymoon with on some tropical island. A special someone to have
children and grow old with. A special someone who watches football, snores,
rakes leaves, and shovels snow. A special someone who even when I want to kill
him makes me laugh a second later and I forget about my grudge. A special
someone who lets me know the world isn’t a big, bad, dark, hole waiting to
gobble me up.
It might be nice to have kids someday. Kids who are babies
that I can dress in adorable outfits. Kids who don’t color in the lines and
finger paint to the point that it gets on them. Kids who play Pee Wee football,
Pee Wee soccer, Pee Wee dance and whatever other Pee Wee thing there might be
to do aside from going to that perve’s playhouse. Kids that do spelling words,
even if I have to force them before school. Kids who make me laugh with their
explanations and schemes of why they did something. Kids who sparkle and make
me smile. Kids who know they have puppet brothers and sisters and as a result
can put up with anyone’s differences.
But both the husband and kids are fictional. They don’t speak
in these dreams. Plus if they were real they would have to compete with my
closet of costumes and room full of eleven puppets. My schedule is busy so they
would be fending for themselves in the kitchen and doing all the laundry. And
something tells me they would not understand being stashed under the bed when
space was tight.
Oops, they aren’t puppets.
I guess for now it is my apartment that looks like a war
zone, my puppets, my comedy, my video making, my book writing, my singing
telegrams and my music that occasionally gets on the radio.
This week a guy took my number and he has been lukewarm
basically letting me know he isn’t that into me. Sigh, just like high school.
Now off to my guy free life of a bubble bath and trash romance novel. The guys
in those books are what women want. Those fictional men can be into me if I
make them into puppets. I better stop while I am ahead. I sound crazy. I can
picture one of them writing in the next time I am written up in the Gawker. He
can say I forced him into a bubble bath after a rain storm.
Love
April
I Came, I Saw, I Sang: Memoirs of a Singing Telegram Delivery Girl
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